If I were young, single and looking for a guy to marry, I’d want Tim Tebow. Besides being a wealthy, super talented NFL athlete, he’s also a handsome college graduate from a top-ranked university.  But honestly, those credentials fit some of the other NFL athletes. And I wouldn’t want any of them.

What separates Tebow from some of the others, is that he’s not drinking, doing drugs, committing crimes or having random sex with whomever. Tebow makes the right choices—and that includes waiting for the right woman. And she will need to share his values.

There’s lots of hostility towards Tim Tebow and his choice to remain sexually abstinent. It’s interesting to wonder why so many in the media find it offensive to have someone popular, handsome, rich and successful making a decision that hasn’t affected his on-the-field success.

According to Tim, this is his life’s agenda:

Live pure. Work hard. Leave the rest to God.

Girls, I would do all I could to attract someone like Tim Tebow. Maybe your Tim Tebow won’t be an athlete, or rich, but anyone who values marriage as much as he does would be the kind of man who would never leave you, would honor you, would work hard for you, never cheat on you, and make an amazing father for your children.

There are Tim Tebows out there. You won’t find them where there’s drinking or carousing. You’ll most likely find them at a church on Sunday—and working faithfully during the week.

It’s worth looking for---and girls, it’s worth saving sex for someone like a Tim Tebow. Because when you find him you want to be able to say you waited too.

The pursuit starts young. Attracting guys. Dressing in a way that makes guys look. And look again. Even 8-10 year old girls resemble streetwalkers. Sad to say, they think they need to.

By the time high school proms come around, the revealing attire can leave little to the imagination. Not that the young women don’t look good. That’s not the point.

Stop and consider the goal. Is it an eventual relationship with respect, honor and integrity? How will that be accomplished by putting your body on display?

From all the relationship books I’ve read I’ve concluded that when it comes to guys, the type of bait you use will determine what you catch. So if you bait the hook with your revealing clothes, you may find yourself with someone who only wants what you seem to be offering---your body.

In the end, if you are seeking a stable, lasting relationship, you’ll need to develop a bond with a man who sees you as a partner—not a sex toy. Take time to get to know him. Save your body for the one who wants to know you for your mind, your character, and your life that you want to share

Bait your hook without the eye-popping clothes that leave little to the imagination—because all you’ll probably catch are the “fish” who only want a quick feed and then will move on. Trust me when I tell you that there are men who are waiting for the right bait. You don’t want to miss the opportunity to catch the best. He’s out there waiting for you.

According to a report in The Atlantic Wire, 92 percent of top ten billboard songs contain strong sexual themes. With those odds, we can’t avoid the “in your face” message hitting us from signs, airwaves and full-color glossy prints.

Even if you look away you can’t avoid the theme. We also see those who buy into the offer. They wear the wares; they drink the kool-aid. What we often don’t see is the cost of that choice.

Unlike alcohol and smoking, the sexual trap can inflict pain now and later. Besides the STDs, the broken hearts caused by failed and flawed relationships litter the personal landscape of many. Relationships with lasting power can become forever beyond the reach of those who are desperately seeking them. These are serial relationships with sex being used like cheap glue holding them together. From one relationship to the next and the next and the next.

What they haven’t learned is that real faithfulness comes in saving sex for a monogamous marriage. The time before marriage is used to discover the other aspects of personal character, like integrity, honesty, selflessness and love.

So how can someone be sexually abstinent while immersed in a culture that values hyper-sexuality? It’s a choice. Daily. Sometimes hourly. But it’s a decision that one makes for oneself—regardless of the pressure. We have only ourselves to blame and it is we who will feel the consequences of our choices.

Statistics tell a story. And this story seems to have a better ending for a generation of teens. According to the Center for Disease Control the amount of sexually active teen girls has declined from 51% in 1988 to 43% in 2010 and teen boys declined from 60% to 42%.

Recent teen surveys indicate that they are choosing to abstain from sex for religious or moral reasons. Even though those nasty STDs could scare them off, teens are wise enough to also see the cost of a choice made now could impact their future happiness in ways that keep them from gambling with their chances.

As the nation’s health authority, the CDC still is concerned with teens choosing to disregard the health hazards with sexual activity. It’s a risky activity and can lead to health consequences far beyond what any young person should have to deal.  But for the MAJORITY of teens they are not choosing to roll the dice. Good for them. Even better news for our future.